Torn between two parent
How long will we continue creating a streak of broken men and women? The upbringing of children matters. Most abusive men are men who witnessed abuse whilst growing up. What example do we set when parents are no longer together? Ask yourself what kind of family or situation do you want your children to be in before having a child with someone? If you are no longer with the other parent think deep about the way you are raising your child.
A man doesn’t become useless after fathering a child. Don’t think by falling pregnant you will make him responsible. If you don’t want to have a useless father for your child why not think deep about what we witness in our society everyday?
Fellow brothers, children need their fathers. Have a soul and stop spreading your seed with every woman you fall in lust with. Can you imagine the pain of a child wanting to know his father? Can you imagine a child listening to other children talking about their fathers?
Things happen, not as you planned sometimes. If a man wants to support or maintain his child , let him do that. Why deny the child his/her father because of your anger or a failed relationship ?
Dear daddy dearest ,she left you yes and you are still not over it we know, but stop poisoning the child to act out on other men because of your jealousy .You will just build a confused and unruly child who is disrespectful.
Mommy dearest, don’t be evil! You can afford a lawyer, that is great, but sucking him every penny often ends ugly. When your children eventually find out that daddy is suffering because of mommy’s outrageous demand, it may bring animosity between you and them.
One of the best things you can do is to teach your child to have respect under all circumstances. That neither comes by telling the child, how pathetic his/her father is nor does it come by making him/her hate every woman your ex sees. Other ladies will never replace you , stop being insecure unnecessarily.
Mr Father, your child cannot be seeing every new girlfriend every month. That is bad for a child and is likely to confuse your child or teach your child that it is okay to live like that.
Lastly papa, paying for child maintenance, doesn’t mean the woman is yours. Stop monitoring your ex or asking about the man in her life. Your child is your responsibility and should never be maintained based on what the mother is doing.
Part of reducing social ills start in the family. How would you want your child to view you one day when you are eighty years old? What will your children utter about you when they are all grown and having a life of their own away from you? Start now before it is too late. Be a better parent.